Dear Modern Muslim,

How do you deal with rejection from men? That’s really been getting to be recently and it makes you question your self-worth.

Dear Anonymous,
Rejection can be tough and a huge blow to your self-esteem, so trust me when I say I get it. Back in high school, I would be so sensitive if the guy I was interested in, didn’t like me back. I would literally mope around for days and lay in bed blasting music while self-criticizing myself and what was wrong with me. But as you start to grow older, you realize how silly it all seems and why you should never depend your happiness on a man. Like so what, the guy you are interested in, isn’t feeling you. You took that risk so kudos to you and you will realize you’re better off without him and somebody out there will appreciate you for you. NEVER, and I mean NEVER change yourself for a guy. Build yourself to where you’re confident within your own body, mind, and soul in which it stops phasing you whether a man likes you or not. I promise you’ll be so much happier. My answer is to build your own aspirations, goals, and happiness. Be happy within your skin and the right person will come in your life. He will add value to your life, not make you question your self-worth. Remember, we all go through it. You can either waste your life moping around about a guy who ghosted you or be a bad bitch. I say go with option B.

Food for thought: From my experience, the moment a guy realizes he has you wrapped around his finger, is the moment he will take advantage of your kindness and leave you feeling vulnerable and dependent. AKA why you really can’t depend on a man. I can’t stress this enough because they’re as reliable as your 2001 jeep with 200,000 miles on it, with every warning signal on the dashboard. I don’t know who you are but I believe you’re a cool girl with a big heart, don’t criticize your self-worth girlfriend.